Holiday Splits: Same Kids, Two Homes, No Drama
If “who gets the holiday?” turns into a yearly showdown, this one’s for you. In this episode, we talk about real co-parenting math—alternating years, splitting the day, or celebrating before/after so nobody feels robbed. We’ve done it all: long-distance drives, “wake up here / dinner there,” and the “we outside with both families” version. The theme? Flexibility with boundaries. Holidays hit different when you drop the scorekeeping and focus on your kid’s experience.
What’s Working For Us
Alternate or offset. Take Christmas morning this year, switch next year—or do Eve/Morning splits.
Celebrate early. Your kid remembers the memory, not the calendar date.
Communicate like adults. Ask for swaps; confirm times; give grace when life changes.
The Confessional: WHEN YOUR KIDS LOVE THE NEW PARTNER
A listener wrote in: “I know it’s healthy, but it still hits.” Truth. Feeling jealous or tender is human; acting out isn’t helpful. Our take: process the feeling elsewhere (therapy, a friend), keep things respectful in front of your child, and let healthy relationships around your kid be a win.
3 Takeaways to Try
Pick your holiday plan (alternate/split/offset) and write it down.
Share one non-negotiable and one flex point with your co-parent.
If it stings, mute the triggers (social scrolls) and choose peace on purpose.
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Got a story you’ve never said out loud? A messy moment you want a balanced perspective on? Send an anonymous confession—we react on air with honesty and empathy.
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